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10 Stories in 1 Movie

2009-10-08T18:08:00.000-07:00

Ten different stories, then different directors, one common theme a 2.20 hrs movie, thats what kerala cafe is. The movie was conceptualized by ranjith, the renowned film maker and supported by Backwater media and entertainments pvt limited.

According to the director of backwater, this movie is very very different from the conventional movies in the way its organized and executed. The movie is set to be released on 29th oct. There is already a hype around this movie.

Australian Dream - Sydney

2009-08-12T03:48:00.000-07:00

I have many friends in Australia and many of them are doing part time jobs there. Most of them are into normal jobs and a few good ones are into programming and stuff.

One particular friend is doing software work here and is planning to do web design for Sydney companies. He is good at coding skills, but lacked design skills.

The payment for this sort of works in Australia is very attractive and many are learning such skills day by day.

Sequel season

2009-05-29T20:30:00.000-07:00

Looks like its the sequel season in malayalam movie industry. We saw many sequels in the last 5 years and with the success of 2 harihar nagar this trend will only increase. Many producers are planning to do sequels for their old successful movies. This means more money being pumped into an already troubling industry. When will these producers realise that what we need is new stories and themes with fresh talent.. and not old stuff in new bottle. ?

Another important development is neelathamara which is a remake of an old movie, with new cast and crew. The story will be ported to a modern situation. Lal Jose is directing the new version. MT is the script writer for the old and the new movie.

Measuring ROI

2009-04-07T06:27:00.000-07:00

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Movie Reviews

2008-12-22T19:33:00.000-08:00

Movie reviews are always in demand and writing good balanced reviews are not very easy. But there are a few friend of mine who have mastered that are. See the list of good reviews that I have selected.
Lollipop Movie Review
Thirakkatha Review

These are very balanced reviews about the movie. First one is a bad and second one is good. But still it serves the purpose with out offending or promoting the movie.

A Case for Unified Civil Code in India

2008-10-13T10:56:00.001-07:00

There is an need for a unified civil code in India that is 60 years overdue. Because,1) The Constitution Mandates it.2) The Supreme Court has asked the Government to do its job and legislate it.3) It is not against any single community.4) It is actually possible to come up with a common code that can be acceptable for all.

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New Luxury Cars

2008-10-10T19:01:00.000-07:00

India will soon a lot of luxury cars on its roads. Almost all care manufactures are coming up with new models power packed with a lot of features. Most of these cars define luxury. Check out some the cars here, The Tata Elegante, the new Honda city and the Toyota corolla altis.

Many more cars are under design. Maruti is expected to come up with a diesel version of SX4. Many small cars are also expected to hit the roads. No company can survive in India with out a small car in its kitty.

New Cars in India

2008-10-03T19:37:00.000-07:00

The automobile revolution is happening in India. Many new cars are hitting the market. All international car manufacturing companies are now in India. Most of them are focusing on the small car segment, the hatch back.

Chevrolet Spark
Tata Indica Vista
Maruti Alto, Zen Estilo
Hyundai Santro, getz

Tata is bringing out a new small car, the Nano. Even though they are in trouble with the manufacturing plant, we hope to see that car on the road in 2009.

Diet for Dialysis Patients

2008-08-29T22:38:00.000-07:00

Patients on dialysis needs to take care of their diet to stay healthy and avoid complications. They are very likely to develop other health related issues because their kidney is already non functional and they are depending on an artificial mechanism.

The diet is designed so as to maintain a balance of electrolytes, minerals, and fluid in patients on dialysis.

Most dialysis patients urinate very little or not at all, and therefore fluid restriction between treatments is very important. Without urination, fluid will accumulate in the body and cause excess fluid in the heart, lungs, and ankles.

Patients on dialysis need a high protein intake to maintain adequate nutrition. Patients on dialysis can become malnourished and this often means a poor outcome.

The diet will help dialysis patients feel as good as possible.

EVDO

2008-08-27T00:36:00.000-07:00

EVDO expanded as Evolution Data Optimized or evolution data only is a telecommunication technology usually used for wireless broadband internet access.

BSNL has launched EVDO service in India on a test basis and the BSNL EVDO Linux configuration was quite hard.

On Windows the stuff would work fine.

A toddler love story

2008-08-11T07:32:00.000-07:00

Feminism- An interesting discussion

2008-08-05T01:53:00.000-07:00

An interesting discussion about the project blank noise is going on over here. Is eve teasing as common as its being blamed ? Even adjusting the rear view mirror of your own vehicle is considered as an activity of teasing. How much do you agree or disagree.

The first unconference to be conducted on a boat

2008-06-26T23:12:00.000-07:00

Kerala, the Gods own country is a very beautiful place. The bloggers in Kerala are planning a Kerala Blogcamp in aug 16th 2008. The specialty of this event is that its going to be conducted in huge house boat.

If interested in attending, add you details here.

Url : http://www.contactvirus.com/blogcampkerala
Shared Key : godsowncountry

Contrversies and Yellow Journalism

2008-06-26T03:49:00.000-07:00

Our news media has no shame in publishing any type of lies against anyone. The latest example is the Kavya Madhavan, Santhosh Madhavan Semi nude pooja controversy. Its soo stupid and absurd. Still the link is spreading like wild fire. Are we promoting them ? Is it ethical to promote such yellow journalists.

Techie Fun

2008-05-03T04:58:00.000-07:00

Technopark is a place with the highest density of techies in the world. Around 20,000 techies in an very small area working day and night. But life is not monotonous for them.

Technopark conducts an event called the Tech a Break every year, which is the fun event in technopark, where the techies get to enjoy for 2 weeks.

The recent event was Tech a break 2008. There were many events like group dance, singing competitions, sports and games.

Incremental service delivery

2008-05-03T04:34:00.000-07:00

In the early days of software, people used to sell software and then forget about it. Service was not a concern. There was no proper feed back mechanism. Different versions of the software would be released, in which the client had to replace the old installation every time a new version was released.

Then the process began to change. The concept of service pack started to become popular. A Company would sell a software and then would release a service pack after a few months, which will correct the bugs in the existing installations. Sometimes they also add features.

Which car do you want to buy ?

2008-04-13T23:54:00.000-07:00

After the indian markets opened up many new car models were released in India. Till them it was only maruti 800, fiat and ambassador. But now we have a large range of cars to choose from and that presents a lot of problems. We are not experts

Then I decided to buy a car. Maruti Swift Dzire was released a few days ago. I decided to do a test drive and was impressed by the cars performance. The price is less and its feature packed.

After all swift dezire is an Indian car. May be some engineering is done by Fiat, and suzuki did most of the body work. But still its an indian car.

Beware of this college

2008-03-31T10:16:00.000-07:00

Beware of PSN engineering college in Tamil nadu. Read this post, about a girls very bad experience there.

We need more colleges in our home state itself to prevent such exploitations. We send off of our kids to far off states and let them suffer.

Girl Commits suicide

2008-03-25T21:04:00.000-07:00

Yesterday a girl committed suicide in MACFAST, a well known education institution in Kerala.
The girl cut her veins and then hanged herself. Four suicide notes were found in which she accuses the college management for not having helped her to find a stolen laptop.

Behind the screens

2008-03-10T07:06:00.000-07:00

Movie stars have got many fans. People are crazy about their favourite stars in their favourite movies. But how many of us are aware of the work that goes behind the screens.

The actors and actresses are mere puppets in the hands of a director. The key people behind a film are the script writer, screen play writer and the director. All other come after these 3 fellows.

Notebook was written by script writer Bobby Sanjay, two brothers. The film got many awards You can find an interview with Bobby Sanjay here.

Anjathey Review

2008-03-09T19:38:00.000-07:00

I went and saw anjathey on the first day itself. I saw the movie cos the same team had done the hit movie, chithiram pesuthadey. It was also a good movie. Anjathey is a thriller. And dont get deceived by the posters, there is not even a single romantic scene in the movie.

Anjathey is superb in terms of the script, the way the story is told, and the climax. The movie has taken full use of the steady cam, and the shots are very realistic. Never seen such wonderful steady cam work in any indian movie.

Narain has acted really well in anjathey. He is suits Tamil films better than malayalam films. He has a tamilian attitude to his looks and acting style.

IDEB Realestate and Constructions

2008-03-03T18:06:00.000-08:00

The realestate and constructions company IDEB is building infrastructure in all major cities of India. This will include Bangalore, Pune, Hyderabad, Jaipur, Mysore, Chandigarh, Dehradun, Kashipur and Delhi.

IDEB is an ISO 9000-2001 certified company. Apart from real estate and construction the company is also into hospitality services. They are planning to build a 4 star, 104 room hotel somewhere in bangalore.

IDEB manufacturing equipments is another supporting company with in the same group. They can be reached at the toll free number 18004251006

Bangalore Open Tennis 2008

2008-03-03T17:56:00.000-08:00

Bangalore open is a Sony Erricson sponsored tennis event happening in Bangalore. The event is the most prestigious tennis event happening in India.

Bangalore open 2008 starts on March 3 and lasts till 9th. The prize money for the event is $600,000. I wish I had learned to play tennis.

Indian Tennis super star Sania Mirza baced out from playing this year in Bangalore open saying that, her playing will create more controversies.

The Official site is http://www.wtabangalore.in/

Gujarat University Exam results

2008-03-03T08:44:00.000-08:00

Gujarat university has announced exam results. The most recently announced results are for the fifth and the seventh semesters. The results are available online also.

http://www.gujaratuniversity.org.in/result_e/result/result_up.asp

This link can be used to get exam results,

JNTU Exam Results

2008-03-02T07:12:00.000-08:00

JNTU (Jawaharlal Nehru Technological University) has announced exam results for their MCA and MBA courses, regular and supplementary. This announcement is for the first semester.

Results of B-tech for all years are all so published.

all the results are available at the following link.

http://www.jntu.ac.in/results.htm

Contact Virus - Build your contacts with a virus

2008-02-17T23:42:00.000-08:00

Dont be afraid of the name. Its not a virus that affects your computer. Its a concept application that will help you build your contact list in a collaborative manner.

The process is simple.

1. Visit www.contactvirus.com and signup
2. Create list
3. Add your details and a few close friends of yours
4. Send out the list to relevant members
5. The list grows on its own.

Give it a try now at www.contactvirus.com

To know the story behind the application check the contact virus blog

Recent movie gossip

2008-02-15T10:58:00.000-08:00

Recently there was a movie gossip. The gossip was that the famous movie actor mammootty beat a fan in public. A youtube video also accompanied the gossip. But if we examine the video carefully we can see that no such thing occurred.

All that mammootty did was slap the had of a fan. The fan tried to mount the car mammootty was in.

Anyways, news is spreading that mammootty is beating a fan in public

Mammootty is the super star of Kerala.

Landing some traffic on my blog

2008-02-13T18:25:00.000-08:00

I recently found out that orkut related keywords are letting a few visitors into my blog. Its something that I wrote some time back. So every one loves traffic and its a very nice feeling when someone comments. So I decided to give this a try. I wrote 2 posts about orkut. How to lock photos and videos in orkut. This was the post title. And I am gettting 20 to 25 people on a monthly basis from this search. looks like many people want privacy features in orkut.

Barcamps becoming hot in kerala

2008-02-13T04:25:00.000-08:00

Barcamps are becoming a trend in kerala. Today the third barcamp kerala was announced after the successful completion of 2 barcamps, one in trivandrum and another one in cochin. The first one was attended by around 70 people and the second one was attended by 80 or so people.

The informal nature of the event has caught the interest of many. The concept of a junior barcamp, one in which only students participate is also getting popular. This will become a venue for students to discuss various technology issues that are in their reach.

Why I Love Photography

2008-01-15T09:32:00.000-08:00

"Not all beautiful things in this world are not mine, then atleast I can have their photographs" - Kenney Jacob

Desires and their timings

2008-01-13T10:42:00.000-08:00

There was a time when i needed something badly and I was ready to give up everything for the stuff that I loved. But time was against me, the social situation was against me and there was no way in which I could get to my objective.

But now the situation has changed, and there is something that I am interested in very much. I can have it any time i need, but now I dont feel like taking the pain to get it.

Love.....

2007-12-27T19:52:00.000-08:00

Love is like a Match Stick.
It Burns only once.
---Kenney Jacob

Loneliness

2007-12-13T04:07:00.000-08:00

I experienced what loneliness is last week. I went to blore to attend FOSS.in and stayed in a lodge room. No friends anywhere near. Felt really lonely. Its one hell of a feeling. Never want to lonely in my life again, not even for a moment. during those days I realized that I am a social animal.

Time

2007-06-15T20:54:00.001-07:00

Time is a bastard.... time forgets, time forgives and I dont want to forget and forgive. My memories are losing sharpness... I am unable to dream. Dreams were my only companions and they are now failing me. I am being pushed back in to the real world .... where all my dreams were shattered. I dont want to go back there ..... I want to live in my dreams..... I want to live my memories.... but time.... the villian..... the fight is on..... for my memories and for my dreams.... for the pain I carry... and for the pain that keeps me going.... I must survive the effects of time.... I must not forget... and I must not forgive....

Unfortunate moment

2007-06-15T20:52:00.000-07:00

The most unfortunate moment........ It was all red.... with some violet and white patches....there was an elephant.. the one animal i am most afraid of....the animal that haunts me every night.... there was this music in the background...the old classical type..... the one which I hate most.... everybody had their hands raised... and there were the traders.... making sure that the sale happened... and there was the butcher.... all happy....

2007-06-15T20:50:00.000-07:00

Reality is dead for me. I no longer live in the real world. I live in a fabricated world where dreams keep me alive. Dreams of the past. All those moments I dream about... And my only prayer is to have it all the time. When ever I sleep I think of all those moments..... those precious moments.... but i didnt know their value..... I started missing them only when i lost it. I am devaststed at the thought that those moments would never come back. They are lost for ever. and the pain is enormous... but i have started to like it. My dreams give me pain of it......Pain is an addiction... and I keep picking my wounds to keep the pain fresh. Memories are my cocaine..... and dreams are my dope...For the real world I am dead..... I exist only in dreams...dreams....and my only prayer is to die dreaming of all those moments...

Unrequited Love

2007-05-05T02:00:00.000-07:00

I have found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespear said.. journeys end in lovers meeting. ahhh what an extra ordinary thought. personally I have never experienced anything remotely close to that. But I am more than willing to believe, shakespear had. I suppose I think about love more than any one really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter an define our lives. It was shakespear who also said.. Love is Blind...And now that is something that I know to be true.

For some ...quite inexplicably.... love fades..... for others... love is simply lost. But then ofcourse... love can also be found.... even if just for a night. And then there is another kind of love..... the cruelest kind..... the one that almost kills its victims.....its called unrequited love....of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with eachother.....but what about the rest of us.... what about our stories...those of us who fall in love alone....we are the victims of the one sided affair....we are the cursed of the loved ones..... we are the unloved ones....the walking wounded.....the handicaped without the advantage of a great parking
space......

Taken from the movie - "The Holiday"

I just love the movies...

2007-05-05T01:54:00.000-07:00

I love movies..... Without movies I would have been a lesser perfect
man......Im not suggesting that im a perfect man... Im wondering
whether i have passed my childhood.
Movies have let me experience a wide range of emotions.... emotions
that are never accessible to me in the real life. Some movies are soo
perfect.... the situations.... the characters.....their behaviour....
you can see them walking on the road.... and without those movies....
I am not myself.... I wish if life were a movie... well directed.....
with a perfect ending....the ever after story.....

Colours of hatred

2007-05-04T07:38:00.000-07:00

Recently I was listening to a book named "Blink". The Topic of the book is the power of quick decisions based on intuition. The author after long years of study suggests that we are capable of making the best decision with out going over a complex and conscious thought process. Initially the concept looks absurd, but after going through his exercises and logical examples the concept seems feasible and really interesting.

The author speaks about conditioning of mind in a chapter. He says that conditioning makes our decisions wrong. Once such strong concept he presents is the use of symbols and the thoughts associated with them. Such strong associations can affect our thought process even without our conscious knowledge.

His examples suggests that most of the americans are gender and colour biased, not in their conscious minds but in their subconscious minds. And this is mainly caused by the media and symbols that we associate with these people.

And we are seeing the same situation now in india also.

Terrorism is associated with muslims, Saffron is associated with Extreme Hinduism, and if the current situation proceeds cassock of Christian priests will become the symbol of fraud and manipulative power. All these symbols are not definitive symbols, but we are sub consciously trained to make first impressions based in these symbols. Also we condition our behaviour to those people who wear these symbols.

So what can we do to undo all these subconscious training..... well thats what I also want to find out... let me listen to the rest of the book also. Wait.... for a few days....

2007-03-30T21:21:00.000-07:00

It's never been easy for me
To find words to go along with a melody
But this time there's actually something on my mind
So please forgive these few brief awkward lines
Since I met you my whole life has changed
It's not just my furniture you've re-arranged
I was living in the past
But somehow you've brought me back
and I haven't felt like this since before Frankie said relax
and now I know based on my track record
I might not seem like the safest bet
All I'm asking you is
Don't write me off just yet

For years I've been telling myself the same old story
That I'm happy to live off my so called former glories
but you've given me a reason
to take another chance
now I need you despite the fact
that you've killed all my plants
and now I know
i've already blown more chances
than anyone should ever get
all I'm asking you is
don't write me off just yet
don't write me off just yet

2007-03-30T21:16:00.000-07:00

I've been living with a shadow overhead
I've been sleeping with a cloud above my bed
I've been lonely for so long
Trapped in the past, I just can't seem to move on

I've been hiding all my hopes and dreams away
Just in case I ever need `em again someday
I've been setting aside time
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind

All I wanna do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into love
Ohhhhh

I've been watching but the stars refuse to shine
I've been searching but I just don't see the signs
I know that it's out there
There's gotta be something for my soul somewhere

I've been looking for someone to shed some light

Not somebody just to get me through the night
I could use some direction
And I'm open to your suggestions

All I wanna do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart again
I guess I'm hoping you'll be there for me in the end

There are moments when I don't know if it's real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation

All I wanna do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart again
I'm hoping you'll show me what to do
And if you help me to start again
You know that I’ll be there for you in the end

I Killed my angel

2007-02-24T18:46:00.000-08:00

Today morning I wake up and sit in front on my laptop loooking at some picures..........havent looked at them in a while.... old ones... and then I suddenly realised.... what I have lost..... I had everything.... but I didnt know... now that its lost for ever...... no chance to reclaim it... An angel found me... but I was foolish enough to kill it.... and kill it many times over and over again... I was selfish..... and blind.... Now that I have changed.... the angel is no more... I keep looking for my angel.... But its nothing like your angel finding you.......

The DON

2007-02-21T01:33:00.000-08:00

Don will you everything you need, Don will give you money, Don will give you wine, Don will give you women.... Don will give you everything you need.... and in the end Don will kill you.

Courtesy -: A friend of mine.

Not my game anymore

2007-02-18T19:53:00.000-08:00

Inabilities.... I have a lot of them.... Everybody does... and when I find out one I try to overcome it... in a natural way.... somtimes I succed..... sometimes I fail... If I fail I try again...... but....when It becomes a competition.....when I am put behind somone due to my inability...... when I am compared with someone better in the area...thats not a good feeling.... and then I learn... I sit down... I analyse... I study and I enter the field again... and still... there is no improvement....and still I am unable to outdo the competition.... that really hurts...and I repeat the whole process... again and again... and still... Im behind... and thats when I realise... "NOT MY GAME ANYMORE"

Being a Man

2007-01-28T17:05:00.000-08:00

There was a time to show it... and I was not a man enough then. and it showed... I was afraid of the world... now I hate it..... I was forced to do stupid things... and the stupidest of things happend. Bottles emptied... Lifes messed up.... and when it comes to pay the price, I paid in tears.... costs me nothing.... but.... someone paid for it with their life... for my mistake.... for me not being a man enough....got to mature.....and in the process... many more lives to sacrified.... just to make me a man enough....

Something that I learned the hard way

2007-01-02T20:19:00.000-08:00

Somethings are a habit to us. Somethings we learn from our family, friends etc with out much effort. But some things are not at all easy.... and this is one thing I learned the hard way.

"You have to sell yourself consciously"

I always had a belief that whatever we deserve cos of our ability will come to us. If I am honest, if I am good at what I do, I will be recognized. But its not at all true. You will have to sell yourself.... To some people its a very natural activity. And for some its not. But many of the times you will have to do it consciously. Whether its about a job interview, a client meeting, a social gathering or getting a girl... the selling part is of paramount importance....

Vacation...

2006-09-28T06:06:00.000-07:00

Ive been on vacation as far as blogging is concerned for the last month. Been busy with work, swimming in the oceans of technology. Ideas, analysis, documents, mails, meetings. its a new world...

Will be busy with work stuff for some more time.. but will come back to blogging as soon as i get time...

Romance -

2006-09-01T18:59:00.000-07:00

This was posted as a comment to the post "LOVE" by a friend of mine.
Its beautiful.

Cold be the breeze around us,
Starry be the night with moon following us,
Branches twisting, twirling and hugging each other,
Endless be the path finding its way through eternity.

Just you and me and that long drive,
Where trees are bending over us,
Those clouds forming a cozy blanket,
With drizzles playing hide and seek with us.

Your presence making my heart beat faster and slower at the same time,
Your hands playing with my curls and mine with your ears,
Your eyes speaking my heart out,
Contravening all the silence within.

Your hands locking mine with a firm grip,
Your hold taking the toll,
Wondering those moves made by your fingers,
My dreamy walk is longing to get real.

Knowledge is Power

2006-09-01T18:29:00.000-07:00

We all know the importance of knowledge. But do we really care about acquairing knowledge ? Normally people panic when they are in trouble. Thats a reaction to being in trouble. We get angry and frustrated when things are not going according to we planned. Yet another typical reaction. And there are are even more situations where these reactions are predictable. And most of the times these may not be the best reactions..And knowing this give you the power to control.

Knowing typical reactions to typical scenarious is very useful. Consider this..
You have a girlfriend and you see her sitting with another boy and talking to him. Almost everyone will feel uneasy and jealous. And sometime they openly show it. And this will have a bad impression on the girl. Some will tell her that you are mine.. dont sit with others... talk to others...
This is a very common mistake..

Jealousy in love is very common, but you can overcome it if you can understand it. If you know that what you are feeling right now is a typical behaviour, and its not wise to show it then you can control it. But that knowledge is very very important.

And there are many other occasions where human behaviour is predictable. If we can understnad them all... then we can control them. We can make lesser mistakes.

What is a match ?

2006-08-18T21:42:00.000-07:00

Do you believe in the age old concept of a match found in movies ?. The made for each other concept. But in reality its not made for each other... its made for many... or made for none...

There are some, with which almost everyone can spend their lifetime.... and there are some which almost everyone is going to have trouble getting along with. There is no made for each other funda...

It always takes a lot of understnding.

Everyone should go and watch the movie Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna. Karan Johar is introducing a new concept. A concept that is way beyond the comprehension of the audiance. As the movie progresses we can experince an uneasy audiance in the theatre... an audiance which finds the concept very disturbing and very openly expresses it. And most of them leave the theatre with a dissatisfied look.. not having got what they came for... a happy jolly karan johar movie.

The movie deals with concepts like infidelity, marriage problems and above all the concept of letting gooo...

On contrary to the age old saying... a match is not made in heaven its made right here...

Acceptance of the reality

2006-07-15T20:45:00.000-07:00

Recently I watched a movie named "50 first dates". The story is of a girl who has short term memory loss due to an accident. Every day is a new day for her. And our hero meets her one day and impresses her and they decide to date. But the next day she cant remember anything. So the hero is a dilema that he has to win her over every day. (Think how hard it is.... considering that fact that many of us cant even do it in 23 years).

Now coming to the point... her dad accepts the fact that his daughter is dating someone. Dating is a process of getting to know each other...... its like a demo application we install on our computer... we try .. and if we are not satisfied we try another.... The western world have accepted this fact and is living with it. This process happens here also... but we are reluctant to see it in such a way. We attach some divinity to it. Unthinkable...... Well theres nothing unthinkable....

Every time we get attracted to the other sex.... in colleges, work places.... everywhere. Sometimes we do it in a structured way and we call it courtship. Matchmaking is a similar activity.

See this link
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating

Love - From Experience

2006-06-11T10:48:00.000-07:00

Ive been talking to a friend of mine who is a US girl travelling around the globe. We used to do a lot of tech talk and some how today we talked about love and GF/BF stuff. And as the discussion progresses she said something that struck me. Some thing that Ive experienced... she put it into nice words. It follows

"you will fall in love with your first gf, she will break your heart, you will become little less sensitive and romantic....(more practical basically) and you will go through coupla more relationships, some good some bad...and eventually they will look like headache to you, but you will still want to be in relationship. and you will keep looking and keep meeting wrong ppl and eventually the whole relationship crap will become a game, timepass as they say, and you will only do it for sex or for company etc and rest of the time you will be sooooo happy to not be in relationship. thats how it goes, and eventually you may end up getting married, but gosh, marriage is wayyyy tooo much work and 50% them fail"

And Ive experienced what she said. We keep on losing our innocence. May be thats how we grow, may be thats how we fight being hurt. may be thats how life is.... get involved, get hurt, patch it up, dont repeat.... the cycle continues. Lucky are the ones who are able to break it. Lucky are the ones who can have a fresh start.... as they can remain as innocent as a kid and enjoy the world.

Love

2006-05-26T22:35:00.000-07:00

My idea of love is expressed in this picture. Its from a movie name "A Walk to Remember". This is how i want to live. And this is the feeling that i want to have forever.

Why am I worried...

2006-05-17T00:42:00.000-07:00

Hey sometimes i think why i should worrry about all this now. I am only 22.5 and i think a lot about this stuff.... hey i am a techie... and still why am i wasting soo much time after this... ?

May be because i look a lot older than i am...
May be because people whom i meet for the first time usually ask me "Whats your wife doing "?? Some have even asked me .. how many kids i have.... ??

May be because I feeel its very important... or i do have fears that i might fail to be a good husband, or my wife if not propoerly chosen is going to ruin my life.

Actually the whole thought process was initiated by a series of marriages of my relatives and some of my close friends. I began to feel that the whole system makes the bride and the groom vnuerable to failure. And still people approach it with a light heart.

I dont want to happen that to me... but still i have no choice.... all the birds are on the tree and i dont know how to climb one....

Human made religion

2006-05-16T02:12:00.000-07:00

This is in response to a comment on the blog below. Mixed marriages might fail... but whose fault is it ? If the marriage fails because its a mixed marriage then the religion itself is the problem.

See the comment made by my friend.

I like it very much.

"The dirtiest thing to bring between the divine love is the dirty human made relegion"

Mixed marriages

2006-05-06T19:24:00.000-07:00

Apart from the choice factor mixed marriages have an advantage of introducing communal harmony. But again i am no politician. I see it as a beautiful way to get married. The only thing that should divide two partners must be the fact that one is a male and the other is a female. Silly religions and other divisions have already created a lot of broken hearts. Evil.... thats how i see it.

Matter of choice

2006-05-06T19:14:00.000-07:00

I dont like religions, i dont like religious leaders. Not becasue of the hatred they are spreading, not because of the cheap tricks they do to keep the followors with them. Not because they are the dirtiest in mind.

Ive been a regualr visitor to matrimonial sites, and in those to search i will give my age, cast, religion, group inside religion, state etc..... and i get 25 results. Out of these 25 there will only be 2 or 3 for whcih there is a remote possibility. And if we search without any of these silly stupid nonsense features like religion, caste etc i end up with more than 1500 listings. Of which i like may be a 100 will be there. See the difference....

These religious idiots are limiting our choice yaar.....

Changing Scenario

2006-05-04T18:40:00.001-07:00

Times are changing. The days where the girl used to be submissive character is gone. Now they demand an equal share in the partnership. Financial independance, more liberal outlook etc have made these possible.

There was a time when every girl used to learn cooking.... learn household work. Now its medcine and engineering that they study. Many dont even know how to make tea. Any ways I know enough cooking to sustain myself. The change is good..... but how many are ready to accept it. How many are ready to give a helping hand in the kitchen. I am ready.... at least i wont show any objection when i speak. But when it comes to really helping... i dont know.

When girls get busy with their profession.... who will do the household job.. ??? Well lets appoint a servent. ....

Contract

2006-04-29T19:06:00.000-07:00

Everyones asking.... what do you expect from your wife. ???
Well is that an easy question. ? I myself dont know what i want.
When i see ads in papers i feel people are making marriages a contract.
You specify the deliverables.. and if the product matches your deliverables you marry.

I dont want to be a deliverable myself.

in a class of 60 students only 2 or 3 will be your good friends. Some will be just acquaintances. So how did those 2 or three become your good friends ?? Is it becasue you published your requirements, they satisfied it... and you decided to be friends.... I guess not. You studied in the same class and through interaction you knew in your sub conscious mind that you are compatiable and you beamce friends.

Friends can be changed. We can get a new friend any day. But can I get a new wife when i want ?? I guess NO willl be the answer. None seems to care abt this compatiability issue. Everyones looking at the deliverables only.

I expect to live happily with my wife. But how can i create the requirements for my wife so that ill be happy with her after marriage.

How can you guarantee that you will be happy if your wife meets so and so conditions.
if you feel so.... then meet you one year after your marriage cos ive seen fully satisfied on their requirements before marriage and unhappy about their spouse after marriage.

Deal...

2006-04-29T18:59:00.000-07:00

Most of the time its a one sided deal. One of the partner will have to submit eveerything. And most of the time poor girls sacrifice their wishes for the marriage to last long. Thats an acceptable case in india. If its the otherway around it seems very wiered .

Criter continued

2006-04-29T18:48:00.000-07:00

I asked a friend of mine abroad..... what her expectation are for her future husband...
The answers were typical.

"just that ..i preffer someboday frm here..i mean who been here for the last few yrs..not someone who is born and raised here
some one who is strong at heart..who has a good idea of wht he wants ..not childish..
then...let me se
ofcourse tall enough for me
who should have a good family value...and has enoug spiritual belief
not too socializing but should have agood social life"

So what does she want from her husband ???

Criteria

2006-04-29T17:50:00.000-07:00

When someone is looking for a boy for marriage the main criterias are

Reputed job
Good salary
non drinker
non smoker
Handsome

No body cares about compatiability. The boy and the girl gets atmost 30 mins to talk to each other and decide on whether or not to live 30 years together. And normally they boast to each other during that time. Then they build up dreams about the partner based on those 30 mins. Then after marriage its a painful process realising that things are not the way expected.

Arranged marriage ??

2006-04-29T04:44:00.000-07:00

Well its the worst thing you can do in a relationship.
It may work. But its gambling.
I dont want to gamble with my life. I dont want luck to decide my future 30 or 40 years.
But i situations force you.....
I am not the kinda guy who can impress a girl
So love marriage is not an option for me.
I think this arranged marriage setup was created for people like me... who are the under dogs in the fight for a partner.

Finally its better to have something than nothing... so i am ready to forget the risks... i am forced to.....

What do u need from a marriage

2006-04-28T21:32:00.000-07:00

Does anyone really know what they want from a marriage. ?
Everyones getting married these days. And I ve been thinking abt it a lot. Not Planning to get married soon, but thinking about how will it be like to live with a girl.... some one i have not seen yet.

This sudden thought about marriage was triggered by the fact that girls who used to be my classmates are getting married.... Suddenly started getting invitations.... and i began to think what all these people doing after getting married.

Is it a dream come true... or some sort of a regualr thing that everyone must go through. ?

Well if i get a girl who is a real problem herself.... my life is doomed.....

Stuff seems frightning.